Comments on: Mirroring Monday – Avoiding a Power Struggle Edition http://connectedparenting.com/2010/04/mirroring-monday-avoiding-a-power-struggle-edition.htm Set Loving Limits and Build Strong Bonds with Your Child for Life Sat, 04 Feb 2012 15:52:26 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.2.1 By: Dr. George Hadley http://connectedparenting.com/2010/04/mirroring-monday-avoiding-a-power-struggle-edition.htm/comment-page-1#comment-1038 Dr. George Hadley Sat, 09 Jul 2011 17:42:54 +0000 http://connectedparenting.com/blog/?p=2527#comment-1038 Great Example of Mirroring with a purpose. As a child dev. specialist I would be interested in knowing the age of the student. I imagine he is older since the felt importance of moving on or in finishing projects at that age. With younger children it might be best to let them go on for whatever time they need - days - weeks - to feel done with what they are doing. Also, I have found the more creative the child, the less they are into finishing things and the more they are into having a lot of things going, working on what is of interest at the moment. I wrote an article years ago titled "Creative Kids Have Messy Desks" the idea that very creative children have lots of things (interests) going at the same time many never to be finished. The fear I found that they would grow up being that way - never be organized - usually doesn't happen. When grown they still have lots going, but with maturity learn what (has to be done and on time) and then do it. Summary: We don't want to use mirroring to force a child out of their comfort or creative zone. Great Example of Mirroring with a purpose. As a child dev. specialist I would be interested in knowing the age of the student. I imagine he is older since the felt importance of moving on or in finishing projects at that age. With younger children it might be best to let them go on for whatever time they need – days – weeks – to feel done with what they are doing. Also, I have found the more creative the child, the less they are into finishing things and the more they are into having a lot of things going, working on what is of interest at the moment. I wrote an article years ago titled “Creative Kids Have Messy Desks” the idea that very creative children have lots of things (interests) going at the same time many never to be finished. The fear I found that they would grow up being that way – never be organized – usually doesn’t happen. When grown they still have lots going, but with maturity learn what (has to be done and on time) and then do it.
Summary: We don’t want to use mirroring to force a child out of their comfort or creative zone.

]]> By: Jacqueline Green http://connectedparenting.com/2010/04/mirroring-monday-avoiding-a-power-struggle-edition.htm/comment-page-1#comment-113 Jacqueline Green Thu, 29 Apr 2010 18:47:31 +0000 http://connectedparenting.com/blog/?p=2527#comment-113 Hi Rebecca, I love this article. What a great example of how mirroring works to help a child go from stuck to moving on. I love that you were able to validate his feelings and yet still get him to move on and work on the other projects that he needed to finish. Thanks for sharing this memorable example. Hi Rebecca,

I love this article. What a great example of how mirroring works to help a child go from stuck to moving on. I love that you were able to validate his feelings and yet still get him to move on and work on the other projects that he needed to finish.

Thanks for sharing this memorable example.

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