Comments for Connected Parenting http://connectedparenting.com/blog Wed, 10 Mar 2010 18:26:00 -0500 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.8.5.2 hourly 1 Comment on Jennifer Kolari Will Give Keynote at Ottawa Camp Fair March 7 by Julie K http://connectedparenting.com/blog/2010/03/05/jennifer-kolari-will-give-keynote-at-ottawa-camp-fair-march-7/#comment-129 Julie K Wed, 10 Mar 2010 18:26:00 +0000 http://connectedparenting.com/blog/?p=1977#comment-129 I would have loved to attend the seminar in Ottawa as I am the parent of "that child" and am looking for tools to build a healthy relationship as I know I can handle things better than I do now. I unfortunately received the flyer in my mailbox the monday after the seminar and my mother in law told me she saw the ad in the paper the day of the seminar which at that point was too late for me to go. I have purchased the book and really looking forward to reading it! Would love to know about upcoming events in Ottawa if any are planned. Julie I would have loved to attend the seminar in Ottawa as I am the parent of “that child” and am looking for tools to build a healthy relationship as I know I can handle things better than I do now. I unfortunately received the flyer in my mailbox the monday after the seminar and my mother in law told me she saw the ad in the paper the day of the seminar which at that point was too late for me to go. I have purchased the book and really looking forward to reading it! Would love to know about upcoming events in Ottawa if any are planned.

Julie

]]> Comment on Helping Your Child Succeed by What I Was Reading This Week - connectedparenting.com http://connectedparenting.com/blog/2010/01/21/helping-your-child-succeed/#comment-127 What I Was Reading This Week - connectedparenting.com Sun, 07 Mar 2010 23:21:13 +0000 http://connectedparenting.com/blog/?p=1511#comment-127 [...] Expertise and Perseverance. Penelope Trunk has a post up this week discussing the idea that expertise results from almost daily hard work over a period of at least ten years and not as a result of innate talent. These are the same ideas behind Malcom Gladwell’s theory of Outliers. To me, this discussion raises all kinds of questions about what might motivate someone to spend so much focussed time on a pursuit — and to persevere when they encounter failure. At least part of the answer was offered by Jennifer Kolari last week in her post about helping children succeed. [...] [...] Expertise and Perseverance. Penelope Trunk has a post up this week discussing the idea that expertise results from almost daily hard work over a period of at least ten years and not as a result of innate talent. These are the same ideas behind Malcom Gladwell’s theory of Outliers. To me, this discussion raises all kinds of questions about what might motivate someone to spend so much focussed time on a pursuit — and to persevere when they encounter failure. At least part of the answer was offered by Jennifer Kolari last week in her post about helping children succeed. [...]

]]> Comment on New Theory Suggests that Overly Sensitive Children Have Over-sized Potential by New Research Supports Orchid Hypothesis - connectedparenting.com http://connectedparenting.com/blog/2009/11/20/new-theory-suggests-that-overly-sensitive-children-have-over-sized-potential/#comment-126 New Research Supports Orchid Hypothesis - connectedparenting.com Sun, 07 Mar 2010 23:20:54 +0000 http://connectedparenting.com/blog/?p=738#comment-126 [...] New Theory Suggests that Overly Sensitive Children Have Over-sized Potential, More on Orchid and Dandelion Children, Following the Orchid and Dandelion Discussion Published in Audrey Grushcow, News, News, Events & Announcements, Orchid & Dandelion Children Tags: ADHD, Anxiety, dandelion children, David Dobbs, depression, Globe & Mail, hyperactivity, journal Child Development, Orchid Children, orchid hypothesis, reactive to stress, sensitive children, stress at home, The Atlantic Link to this article: [...] [...] New Theory Suggests that Overly Sensitive Children Have Over-sized Potential, More on Orchid and Dandelion Children, Following the Orchid and Dandelion Discussion Published in Audrey Grushcow, News, News, Events & Announcements, Orchid & Dandelion Children Tags: ADHD, Anxiety, dandelion children, David Dobbs, depression, Globe & Mail, hyperactivity, journal Child Development, Orchid Children, orchid hypothesis, reactive to stress, sensitive children, stress at home, The Atlantic Link to this article: [...]

]]> Comment on Mirroring Monday – “It’s Boring” Edition by Rebecca Lindsay http://connectedparenting.com/blog/2010/03/01/mirroring-monday-its-boring-edition/#comment-118 Rebecca Lindsay Fri, 05 Mar 2010 16:07:20 +0000 http://connectedparenting.com/blog/?p=1909#comment-118 Amy, thank you for your post! Understandably, sometimes mirroring feels like the last thing parents want to do. I have to pinch myself sometimes to remind myself to do it despite how many times I’ve done it with success and how well I know it works. And, it was a conscious choice for me to mirror when my student walked into my classroom that Monday afternoon. The truth is though, it takes just as much energy, if not more to be annoyed and it usually feels terrible after. So, why not spend the time and energy mirroring?… Not only does it really work, but it feels a whole lot better not only for the child but for the parent (or in this case teacher) as well! Mirroring really is such a beautiful philosophy. Try mirroring as much as you can when you are not annoyed… Mirror small moments as often as possible. This will help mirroring become part of your repertoire and will feel much less like work and will eventually happen quite naturally even when you least feel like doing it! It definitely takes practice and patience but I promise you, it is well worth it! Remember too, you don’t need to spend hours mirroring… Making two to three mirroring statements and then moving on is very powerful! Amy, thank you for your post!

Understandably, sometimes mirroring feels like the last thing parents want to do. I have to pinch myself sometimes to remind myself to do it despite how many times I’ve done it with success and how well I know it works. And, it was a conscious choice for me to mirror when my student walked into my classroom that Monday afternoon. The truth is though, it takes just as much energy, if not more to be annoyed and it usually feels terrible after. So, why not spend the time and energy mirroring?… Not only does it really work, but it feels a whole lot better not only for the child but for the parent (or in this case teacher) as well!

Mirroring really is such a beautiful philosophy. Try mirroring as much as you can when you are not annoyed… Mirror small moments as often as possible. This will help mirroring become part of your repertoire and will feel much less like work and will eventually happen quite naturally even when you least feel like doing it! It definitely takes practice and patience but I promise you, it is well worth it!

Remember too, you don’t need to spend hours mirroring… Making two to three mirroring statements and then moving on is very powerful!

]]> Comment on Mirroring Monday – “It’s Boring” Edition by Amy http://connectedparenting.com/blog/2010/03/01/mirroring-monday-its-boring-edition/#comment-115 Amy Tue, 02 Mar 2010 15:58:00 +0000 http://connectedparenting.com/blog/?p=1909#comment-115 This is a great story. I find it so hard as a parent to have the patience and empathy to mirror when my kids are being SO annoying! I'm too busy being SO annoyed that I forget to address their emotional state - I forget to meet them where they are. My problem right now is with my 6-year-old, who seems to wallow in negativity. She "hates" school, everything is "boring", and she would rather yell than talk. (Part of the problem is that she's overscheduled right now.) I get defensive and frustrated and I push back when I should mirror. Mirroring certainly requires having plenty of emotional reserves - I can't do it unless I'm relaxed and happy myself. Sorry, this comment is kind of vague and unfocused! Perhaps I should write a post of my own about mirroring and my daughter's mood these days. This is a great story. I find it so hard as a parent to have the patience and empathy to mirror when my kids are being SO annoying! I’m too busy being SO annoyed that I forget to address their emotional state – I forget to meet them where they are.

My problem right now is with my 6-year-old, who seems to wallow in negativity. She “hates” school, everything is “boring”, and she would rather yell than talk. (Part of the problem is that she’s overscheduled right now.) I get defensive and frustrated and I push back when I should mirror. Mirroring certainly requires having plenty of emotional reserves – I can’t do it unless I’m relaxed and happy myself.

Sorry, this comment is kind of vague and unfocused! Perhaps I should write a post of my own about mirroring and my daughter’s mood these days.

]]> Comment on Adversity and Opportunity – Aimee Mullins at TED by Jacqueline Green http://connectedparenting.com/blog/2010/02/20/adversity-and-opportunity-aimee-mullins-at-ted/#comment-108 Jacqueline Green Thu, 25 Feb 2010 22:06:20 +0000 http://connectedparenting.com/blog/?p=1821#comment-108 Wow! What a great interview. Thanks Audrey. I am sure I will remember this interview for a long time. I am going to check out Aimee Mullins' work. She has changed how I view people with different abilities, and I am not a newcomer to this topic. Wow! What a great interview. Thanks Audrey. I am sure I will remember this interview for a long time. I am going to check out Aimee Mullins’ work. She has changed how I view people with different abilities, and I am not a newcomer to this topic.

]]> Comment on Helicopter Parents – Are You Stressing Out Your Child? by Single Soccer Mom http://connectedparenting.com/blog/2010/02/18/helicopter-parents-are-you-stressing-out-your-child/#comment-107 Single Soccer Mom Wed, 24 Feb 2010 22:50:13 +0000 http://connectedparenting.com/blog/?p=1818#comment-107 I completely agree! Due to parents' overprotective nature, the poor children of today are not learning how to live, to take chances, or to make decisions on their own – good or bad. Just look at some of the devices we have nowadays that help us ’protect’ our children; - GPS Tracking Software on cellphones - filters and blocks on T.V. and the internet - email notifications when kids make a purchase with their debt card These devices are telling our kids “I don’t trust you…I don’t think your competent enough to make a good decision…” I know we’re all just trying to look out for our children and help them along in life… but I've seen, first hand, what that can do to them in adulthood. Since my father chose my high school classes, paid my credit card bill and took my car in for maintenance... I have a hard time making decisions and taking care of those things myself. It’s disheartening to think we may be creating an entire generation of individuals who will not know how to do things for themselves and will be scared to try. I completely agree!

Due to parents’ overprotective nature, the poor children of today are not learning how to live, to take chances, or to make decisions on their own – good or bad.

Just look at some of the devices we have nowadays that help us ’protect’ our children;

- GPS Tracking Software on cellphones
- filters and blocks on T.V. and the internet
- email notifications when kids make a purchase with their debt card

These devices are telling our kids “I don’t trust you…I don’t think your competent enough to make a good decision…”

I know we’re all just trying to look out for our children and help them along in life… but I’ve seen, first hand, what that can do to them in adulthood. Since my father chose my high school classes, paid my credit card bill and took my car in for maintenance… I have a hard time making decisions and taking care of those things myself.

It’s disheartening to think we may be creating an entire generation of individuals who will not know how to do things for themselves and will be scared to try.

]]> Comment on New Theory Suggests that Overly Sensitive Children Have Over-sized Potential by How Connected Parenting Can Help Your Orchid Child | Connected Parenting http://connectedparenting.com/blog/2009/11/20/new-theory-suggests-that-overly-sensitive-children-have-over-sized-potential/#comment-106 How Connected Parenting Can Help Your Orchid Child | Connected Parenting Tue, 23 Feb 2010 17:06:20 +0000 http://connectedparenting.com/blog/?p=738#comment-106 [...] New Theory Suggests that Overly Sensitive Children Have Over-sized Potential, More on Orchid and Dandelion Children, Following the Orchid and Dandelion Discussion, New Research Supports Orchid Hypothesis [...] [...] New Theory Suggests that Overly Sensitive Children Have Over-sized Potential, More on Orchid and Dandelion Children, Following the Orchid and Dandelion Discussion, New Research Supports Orchid Hypothesis [...]

]]> Comment on Following the Orchid and Dandelion Discussion by More on Orchid and Dandelion Children | Connected Parenting http://connectedparenting.com/blog/2009/12/26/following-the-orchid-and-dandelion-discussion/#comment-104 More on Orchid and Dandelion Children | Connected Parenting Sun, 21 Feb 2010 05:38:30 +0000 http://connectedparenting.com/blog/?p=1296#comment-104 [...] Following the Orchid and Dandelion Discussion, New Theory Suggests that Overly Sensitive Children Have Over-sized Potential New Research Supports Orchid Hypothesis [...] [...] Following the Orchid and Dandelion Discussion, New Theory Suggests that Overly Sensitive Children Have Over-sized Potential New Research Supports Orchid Hypothesis [...]

]]> Comment on Jennifer Kolari Discusses What to Do When Your Child Puts Things Up His Nose by robin stone http://connectedparenting.com/blog/2010/02/13/jennifer-kolari-discusses-what-to-do-when-your-child-puts-things-up-his-nose/#comment-102 robin stone Wed, 17 Feb 2010 12:39:03 +0000 http://connectedparenting.com/blog/?p=1786#comment-102 I think it is important to consider that most children spend a great deal of time trying to remove things from their noses. The fact that another child is putting things up his nose could mean that he will grow up to be very careful with money. Perhaps, he will become a banker! Or, maybe he will become a collector of fine art or antiques, hopefully, large enough to be displayed in a museum or gallery and no longer up his nose. On the other hand, the child could grow up to become a diamond thief . . . I think it is important to consider that most children spend a great deal of time trying to remove things from their noses. The fact that another child is putting things up his nose could mean that he will grow up to be very careful with money. Perhaps, he will become a banker! Or, maybe he will become a collector of fine art or antiques, hopefully, large enough to be displayed in a museum or gallery and no longer up his nose.

On the other hand, the child could grow up to become a diamond thief . . .

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