CONNECTED PARENTING EPISODE 65 – [REPLAY] When You Love Your Kid But Don’t Like Them Very Much

by Mar 28, 2022Family Dynamics, Is it Just Me?, Jennifer Kolari, Parenting Advice, Podcasts

We love our kids like crazy, but sometimes we don’t like them. In fact, a lot of the time we don’t like them, if they’re a gladiator and being really difficult, challenging and aggressive and we’re not supposed to talk about that.

As parents we feel a tremendous amount of shame and guilt around having these feelings for our child. It doesn’t matter how empathic and kind and loving we feel that we are, when we have a child that is disruptive, ruins moments, takes things apart literally and is angry all the time, our own limbic system has a difficult time managing that.

Today is a replay of a previous upload on this topic of loving our kids even when we don’t like them. It is an important topic that we need to talk about and know that we are not alone in this line of thinking.

Sometimes it is extremely hard to like our child, but that doesn’t make us a bad parents – it makes us human.

Join me for this week’s release in discussing the complicated feelings parents can have when our child is difficult, angry, and or aggressive and what we can do about it to help them and us manage each situation as it arises.



Intro (00:00)
Brings Out The Mama Bear (3:00)
We Respond In A Panic (7:33)
Scared Of Their Own Behaviour (10:41)
The Difficult Child Really Feels Unloved (17:05)


Jennifer Kolari is the host of the “Connected Parenting” weekly podcast and the co-host of “The Mental Health Comedy” podcast. Kolari is a frequent guest on Nationwide morning shows and podcasts in th US and Canada. Her advice can also be found in many Canadian and US magazines such as; Today’s Parent, Parents Magazine and Canadian Family.

Kolari’s powerful parenting model is based on the neurobiology of love, teaching parents how to use compassion and empathy as powerful medicine to transform challenging behavior and build children’s emotional resilience and emotional shock absorbers.

Jennifer’s wisdom, quick wit and down to earth style help parents navigate modern-day parenting problems, offering real-life examples as well as practical and effective tools and strategies.

Her highly entertaining, inspiring workshops are shared with warmth and humour, making her a crowd-pleasing speaker with schools, medical professionals, corporations and agencies throughout North America, Europe and Asia.

One of the nation’s leading parenting experts, Jennifer Kolari, is a highly sought- after international speaker and the founder of Connected Parenting. A child and family therapist with a busy practice based in San Diego and Toronto, Kolari is also the author of Connected Parenting: How to Raise A Great Kid(Penguin Group USA and Penguin Canada, 2009) and You’re Ruining My Life! (But Not Really) Surviving the Teenage Years with Connected Parenting (Penguin Canada, 2011).

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