My name is Kristen Temple, and I am a mother of two. I have a five-year-old son and a three-year-old daughter. When I started trying to change my parenting style, I did not know how to make the necessary changes.
I was kind of left with this idea of no yelling, no boundaries, no nothing, and I became very permissive in my parenting style.
Connected Parenting taught me how to set boundaries respectfully, while also seeing my children as the individual people that they are, and giving them the respect that they deserve. This led to me getting respect in return.
They helped me to set healthy boundaries with my children, while also creating that connection with them. My son was talking to me the other day about something being unfair and I used the CALM technique.
Usually he would push back at this point and reiterate his point over and over. This time, he could see that I understood him and that was the end of the conversation. It was great that he felt heard.
I notice a difference inside and outside my family. I do not just use this approach with my children, I use it in my work life, and on myself.
Applying these techniques to other aspects of life is another big thing that Jennifer talks about. It has been an amazing approach for me to take in all the other areas of my life.
The thing that made the biggest difference for me is when Jennifer talks about ‘gladiator children’.
These are your high energy, high spirited, highly emotional children, and this framework perfectly describes my children. No one else I encountered really touched on that.
For me, it was that section on gladiator children that really resonated and has been the strategy that has worked with my kids.
I think this course is perfect for any parent, and not even just for parents! It has a lot of great tools for communicating in other circumstances.
Seeing the other parents come on and describe situations resonated so much with me. It gives a sense of community, and it makes you feel like you are not alone because you see others going through the same thing.
Hearing Jennifer guide people through the different scenarios helped me to solidify what I was doing in my own parenting styles.